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Saturday, 05 December 2009

What is it about jerks?

I'm pretty close to my dad, he's a friend I could talk to about almost anything. I like to think that he's a good guy in general. All my life, he's been a ladies man, never alone, and most of them "hot". When a friend of mine was asking me about what women like about men, about how to meet a girl and keep her around, I sent him to my dad.

After the lengthy phone call, I asked my friend what he said. "Apparently, I just need to be an a**hole, and they will flock all around me." Is this true?

Look at all romantic comedies. Every single one of them starts with an amazing girl who's dating some jerk, and none of them realize it until the end when the perfect man sweeps them off of their feet. It brings up the question: what attracts women to jerks in the first place?

I've dated a jerk or two, and it's never pretty. You know he's not right for you, that you deserve better, but you can't seem to let go. There is always a reason to keep going. I know for me, it was always the hope that he would grow up and maybe turn into a decent person. I didn't want to change him, but I was still waiting, hoping, for a change.

You'd be an idiot to go into a relationship that you knew wasn't going to be good for you. So why do we do it? Their charm? The rebel inside? Not knowing that there is better out there?

I spent over two years with someone I couldn't let go. I knew that I wouldn't ultimately be happy with him. I knew our values and morals didn't line up. I didn't like the things he was involved in. I could never see myself having a family with him. But I could never find a reason enough to be finished with him. I knew he was a horrible person, that there was a likely chance that he had cheated on me, but I could always make up a reason to not dump him. "It will make things too complicated... I'll wait until he graduates... until I graduate... I really think he's ready to work on us..." It was all crap. Every excuse. I knew he was bad for me, but I didn't want to be out of it.

It was only after a summer away, him telling me the truth about a lie, and finding a new friend with fresh eyes to help me see that I was able to let him go.

And I've never been happier.

Have you ever known you were with a jerk, but couldn't let him/her go?
Never let me choose a movie

It seems that when I'm left on my own on deciding a movie, I will choose the most inappropriate of titles. It happens more frequently than it should. Here is a short list of times when you shouldn't leave me to provide the entertainment...

Halloween - May:

I enjoy slasher films, horror films, and the like. My tastes are a little different, though. One of my favorite Halloween movies is May. You've probably never heard of it; some small-time movie with people like Anna Faris and Jeremy Sisto. In my mind, the awkwardness is hilariously creepy. I laugh pretty much through the entire thing. It has come to my attention that most people just find it plain creepy. Honestly, what's better than a movie that truely creeps you out for Halloween? Sure it might take you out of your comfort area of zombies and ghosts, but if you're comfortable, then are you really scared? May will reamain, in my mind, a great way to freak yourself out on Halloween.

Death in the family - Marley and Me / School of Life:

Nothing makes a person feel better about their loss than falling in love with a character in a movie, only to have them be lost in the end, right? Try again. Ultimately, these were terrible choice in movies to watch. Never trust the genre known as "Family Comedy" again. Don't get me wrong, both were cute, had their moments. But no amount of comedy could make you feel better when you're in mourning, not only over someone close to you, but a character in a movie. Just don't do it. I always feel awkward watching these types of movies, like I don't know how to react. I laugh, I cry... It's hard to get through no matter what's happening in your life.

Did someone just die? Then watch Eulogy or Death at a Funeral. About death, and completely time inappropriate, but at least you'll laugh for two hours and forget about it.

A break up - The Notebook:

I love watching The Notebook, hard to admit. I'm not one for sappy romances, but this one pulled my heartstrings. It always makes me feel better, so why wouldn't it work for someone else? It's difficult to watch a love so perfect after a big break up. Sure, she found the person to spend her life with, but you just lost yours. Talk about salt in the wound. "If you're a bird, I'm a bird." How cute is that? Too bad it wasn't for you...

Don't do this to yourself: just say no. If you're going to watch something sappy to mourn, then try City of Angels. Right, love story. But the ending is bittersweet. If you have to hurt yourself by reminding yourself how alone you are, then do it right.

Monday, 17 March 2008

Day of Emotional Rollercoasters

Have you ever felt betrayed by someone? Imagine. You finally get over something. For a year, there was one thing that was bothering you more than anyone else, and you are finally okay with it. You know you're ready. Bring it on. Of course, you always know that it will still hurt, but at this point, you've realized you love someone enough to be happy for them.

I thought I would have a problem with him finally finding someone. Really, I don't. I'm happy he did. Or rather, was.

Until I found out it was her.

You know, two people that I care most about. Really. How can you do that? I love him, and I love her to death. But they can't do this. I understand that they didn't do it to hurt me, but they should have not done it to not hurt me.

There should have been a boundary. Like in the way that siblings never (except in the Appalachians) feel attracted to each other. There's a chemical interaction in your brain that tells you "NO".

Neglecting the boundary that I guess neither of them had, there should have been a sense of maybe loyalty, or propriety, or love for a friend that would have kept them for letting it go further than a thought.

Guys, enjoy the time. His mother will love you, little catholic girl. I'm finished with the both of you.

Sunday, 16 March 2008

And I'm back, from outer space...

I don't know whether I tired of blogging, or got tired of people being rude while blogging, but I miss it, and I'm back. For now at least. I don't really want to recap what's happened since I last blogged, suffice it to say that I'm mostly happy.

So I come back to Xanga, and all of my friends quit blogging as well, save one. Which is actually quite comforting considering that I don't think Kate has it in her to attack me.

What prompted this? Generally, I have to get something off of my chest. And here it is. My boyfriend is a great guy, and quite the charmer, he therefore has a lot of female friends. I've never had a problem with this. I'm not protective, I don't get jealous. Until now. One of our friends, one of the dullest and most boring people you will ever meet, just turned 21 a month ago. We went out with her, and, all-of-a-sudden, they become the best of friends. Like schoolgirls. I thought it was a one time thing, and oddity, but it happens every single time she goes out with us. One night they even got into a little fight over something that I didn't think was that big of a deal. I know this girl worships the ground he walks on, and he has to know it. Really, I do not believe that anything will happen between. She doesn't have the guts, and he has better taste than that. I hope.

Last night, I just could not get a hold of him. Another friend said that my boyfriend and the girl were out taxiing the airplane. Finally, I he called me back and they were out having margaritas at cafe ole. wtf? So, I get a friend, and go out downtown. He says he'll meet us down there, and he never comes to meet us. He knew right where we were and never came. He spent the whole night in other bars with this girl.

What the hell? Is it wrong for me to be upset over this? It sounds like I'm just pulling a jealous girlfriend here, but shit. I haven't seen him in a week, and he spends the night with the most plain girl in the world when I had come out to be with him.

Yeah... I'm done. Now that I've gotten that out, look forward to "real" posts, not just ranting.

EDIT: Haha, my profile is still harry potter... that makes me smile.

Thursday, 14 September 2006

"Where am I? Uh... On your doorstep. Wanna come? I shaved my legs..."

That is by far the best way to get someone out of their house in the middle of the night.